Andrew’s Blog: Let go

It’s not natural for busy executives in todays world to let go of our stuff, particularly with all the chaos going on the world.

We often focus so hard on maintaining old patterns, that have served us in the past, but we frustratingly hold onto these patterns, behaviours, habits that served us in our 20’s

It’s like playing style of football that won the championships in 1980 and believing tactics will win in 2020.

Why do we cling on so tightly to the business tasks as if it is the true measure of life’s success – we become so focused on seeing the task through without truly understanding what the result is going to be.

I don’t mean just in our businesses, but in our health, our relationships and mindset?

So today, let’s keep our goals in perspective. Let’s focus on what makes us truly happy and healthy, not just what keeps us busy.

I am confident that we let go of our frustrations at work and focus on body, relationships and mindset, and trust that business will take care of itself, we will thank ourselves in years to come

Or we will pay the price

The choice is ours

What’s the biggest thing you have had to let go of?

Andrew’s Blog: Measured vs Spontaneous

Our overwhelming desire to measure things could be getting in our way. Especially if we are measuring the wrong things or feel paralysed by the data.

I don’t know if it’s in our genetic coding or if it’s a learnt behaviour to want to measure everything we do?

Whether you’re analytical or more big picture type of guy I expect you like to measure data

But does it help improve performance?

It is easy to get lost in the numbers, it brings a level of certainty and clarity, but does it bring action?

I always admired men who were well measured and in control. I often based my leadership style on these types of traits.

But behind the control was a lack of spontaneity, intuition and real honest emotion.

It was like I couldn’t access them and I then realised people couldn’t access me – and it was effecting my professional and personal relationships.

When I learnt let go of measuring and staying in control of my emotions, I felt free and as result my leadership, relationships AND mental health improved

When we focus on things that lead to real action we create our own luck.

Instead of hesitating and procrastinating, which will only lead to a feeling of overwhelm.

Andrew’s Blog: Lying about being busy

You don’t have time for a crisis because you are creating your own

Someone asked me yesterday what is the best tool for managing time – I said a watch?

Which sounded facetious – but I was being genuine 

Of course there are plenty of tools and techniques for managing our time.

But ultimately it comes down to the choices we make.

There was a time when I looked at my diary for the following week with a sigh with relief.

Because it looked relatively clear.

But come Sunday night it was maxed out, which also brought some relief because it meant I was busy –  I must be doing something right. Right?

But it didn’t allow me to deal with a crisis, which was a crisis in itself.

There was always something to deal with that I didn’t see coming.

Furthermore I’d maxed my diary with meaningless meetings and conversations that weren’t aligned to my vision – or maybe my vision and objectives weren’t clear or big enough to guide me?

Over the years I have learnt to be disciplined and block out my diary – I have learnt to diarise other priorities that focus on my physical and mental wellbeing.

And I don’t feel guilty for replacing work for these types of things even though the entrepreneur is supposed be 110% all the time.

Today let’s listen to what our physical and mental health is calling out for and find a rhythm around them.

When we go all in on our health, relationships and mindset the rewards are much greater.

Rather than being a slave to the work and the diary and thus feeling mentally drained from our own crisis.

Andrew’s Blog: Busy is a trick

It looks like work so it must be work, domination, speeding around, putting out fires, being a hero. Thats what busy executives do right?

I grew up believing work is noisy, fast, hectic, it is physically and emotionally demanding,

For the most part I was running unconsciously. And if I was wasn’t working frantically I couldn’t call it work

Overtime I have learnt  to still my mind from all the chaos, to be quiet and listen, to stop, I have found an inner harmony, that drowns out the noise of the inner voice.

By doing this we learn to hear a lot more, like what our clients are truly thinking and feeling, our loved ones, and sounds that would often be missed on a daily basis.

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Andrew Sillitoe is a business psychologist, author, and speaker. His innovative approach to leadership and work-life balance has earned him invitations to work with a range of global companies, including Pfizer, Nationwide, Virgin, and the BBC. Today Andrew runs the UK’s number-one training company for entrepreneurs and business owners who want to succeed in business, health, relationships, and mindset.

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