Andrew’s Blog: Pay Close Attention

Growing up in the 80s was great in so many ways – mainly do to the level of ignorance.

Greed was good and there didn’t appear to be any consequences. It was all about financial growth.

My dad made good money, he was a fan of the latest tech and nice things – he wasn’t a showoff, he just loved nice things – video players, cameras, classic cars.

He was generous and bought me what I needed without hesitation.

Sadly I only have a few memories of playing sports with him, despite his love for sports – apart from one day when he stepped in to play for our village football team.

It wasn’t long before he passed away (age 48), a memory that will stay with me forever – I wish he’d taken better care of his health so we could have enjoyed more precious moments together.

Let’s reflect on the memories we create for those we care about. Consider your legacy.

Find joy in the connection with those who need your attention.

Next time you’re on your laptop, a phone call or scrolling through social media, and people you care about want your attention, consider your legacy and the memories you are creating.

Pay attention – your leadership is needed outside of work too.

Andrew’s Blog: Stop Lying About Being Busy

There is nothing wrong with being busy, but busy for the sake of busy is just a way to hide from the real work.

Then making excuses that you don’t have time for your family and your own health is a tragedy.

It’s an easy path to follow. I spent years of my life this way feeling like I was building something when really I was feeding myself lies.

Let’s keep in mind why we are busy, and do our best not just look busy but do real work.

Choose one intention today in your business, body, relationships and mindset. Meditate on this.

When we focus on intentions rather than goals we shift our mindset towards what truly matters.

By focusing things that give you instant gratification will lead to burnout and overwhelm.

What are your intentions today?

Andrew’s Blog: It’s Lonely at the Top

Working hard just to buy a load of expensive stuff and only use it as a display of wealth, is probably one of the loneliest things we can do.

I’ve been there, whether it was having the best hockey gear, being seen in a nice car, wearing nice clothes – it drives up status. Not necessarily to those in our tribe – but in our own heads.

It is naive.

Even today I feel the pull towards it.

I do believe there is a difference between simply buying something for status and actually enjoying it.

It is hard wired in hyper-achievers to show up in a certain way. But we don’t always get it right. We are greedy by nature and every day is a test of our will power.

Let’s look to the people in our lives who give us wealth of kindness and understanding rather than to the things we have acquired.    

Wealth for the sake of wealth is a sign of a lonely person.

Andrew’s Blog: You Have Nothing To Prove

We put so much effort in – but what is the reward? We drive ourselves even further to get a result that matches our effort.

This mindset manifests in many ways, maybe it’s greed, maybe proving to others that we can match them, or to the teacher who said we would never make it.

But this type of effort is driven by cortisol and adrenalin – we believe we must achieve the goal or we have failed to reach the target, failed others, failed ourselves.

Today let’s be happy with what we are achieving and recognise that our greed and desire for status could be undermining our good work.

Learning to accept the small successes that others don’t see is the first step to enlightenment and transformation.

Living each day trying to prove our worth, will leave us drained and frustrated, with little headspace to focus on the things that bring us joy.

Andrew’s Blog: It’s Counter-intuitive for Competitive People

We think if we train hard – we’ll feel happier, stronger and reduce stress. But the chemicals are short lived.

There was a time when I couldn’t go to the gym without punishing myself – I was all in – everything was to failure, but I’d leave everything in the gym and have nothing left for my work and family.

It’s hard for competitive executives to focus on rest – especially if we are not getting our competitive fix elsewhere.

It is dangerous to live for the gym – to push ourselves as hard as we can in the Crossfit box, or run huge miles everyday.

It is important to distinguish between what is healthy and what is an addiction.

Do your squats, pushups, planks and pull-ups – but be sure that your vanity and goal orientated mindset is not another form of indulgence.

Make time for guilt free rest – take an afternoon nap, have a stroll, sleep in once in a while.

When we prioritise rest, the training works and you get stronger, leaner and feel energised

If you prioritise your training over rest, then your work, mindset and wellness will suffer in the long run.

Andrew’s Blog: Know Your Limitations

As busy executives, we aren’t alway honest with ourselves. We want to be great at everything. We have our hands in all the pies. We have all the answers to the problems.

We may lack the inner patience to  to be honest about what we  can and can’t do.

Be mindful of your limitations and be honest with yourself that you don’t know everything and you never will. It takes another level of confidence to say:

“I don’t know how to do this”

Decide what you can be involved in and what you need to let go of.

Learning to let go of taking responsibility to know everything, is empowering and frees the mind to focus on your strengths.

Trying to be seen as wise at everything will make you look less wise at most things.

Andrew’s Blog: Keep it Simple

I think most busy executives are greedy – after all it is one of the seven sins and marketing companies know this – they sell to our weaknesses.

Our appetites are big and we not only fill our plates but also our diaries.

It becomes overwhelming mixing all the things we would love to have in our lives – business tasks, exercise, family time – reading, meditation, ski trips with the boys, Sunday morning bike rides – we want it all – we believe we need it all – but at what consequence?

Take something off your to do list or maybe 10. Find something today that you have already started and get it finished – simplify your life – make it stream lined. If you were a brain surgeon with 10 patients or 2 per day how you perform differently?

Seeing something through with quality is one of the most rewarding and fulfilling things we can do – especially when we have the headspace to do it properly.

Otherwise we dilute ourselves and we are never fully present with those who truly matter.

 

Andrew’s Blog: Transformation vs. Change

Body Transformations Don’t Work

The word Transformation is inappropriate.

Most people do not maintain the same body composition after they achieve their goal, therefore it is not ‘transformation’

Transformation is permanent – (a butterfly will never be a caterpillar again)

Transformation is an inside job 🧠

It requires looking deep into your own psychology and making lasting change.

Whereas specific change is a process…it tackles a specific problem.

Such as your leadership, health or relationship for example.

Transformation is different. It is a life changing event. It ignores external factors and practical tools.

It is a journey on the inside.

Are looking for Transformation or to change a specific problem?

Andrew’s Blog: Create Your Own Lockdown Rules

The rules set out by the UK government are non-negotiable.

It’s important for your business, physical/mental health and your relationships that you set non-negotiable rules for yourself so you can navigate the next 3 months in the best possible way.

You can watch my video HERE

I discus the following:

Business

– Have a process

– Remote leadership tips

Body

– Movement/strength training

– Fuel your body in the right way

Relationships

– Don’t be a victim – It’s not about you

– Talk about how you actually feel (speak to a mentor)

Mindset – Meditation – Self-love

Let me know what you think

Andrew’s Blog: Start now

We have been taught that we must always be moving forward, be seen being busy and hectic. It is evidence of hard work, but for the most part we are doing too much and achieving less.

It’s often driven by a need to survive.

In 2021, let’s focus on what’s important and stop worrying about what we are seen to produce.

Then we can tap into something deep inside of us that is real and honest.

This is the way to find find peace and clarity, and as a result we get more done.

Or as Einstein said – The tragedy of life is what dies inside a man while he still lives.

Make 2021 count – start now.