Andrew’s Blog: Kick Back and Get Silly

Since the age of seven, my nickname has been Smiley.

The nickname was due to my happy disposition, however, as I grew up through my 20s and 30s the name started to become ironic.

Life got serious with parenting, tasks and business objectives. Having too much fun may have appeared suspect or carried some level of guilt.

It gets harder to make others happy or feel like we deserve to be happy when work, clients and bills come first.

The pressure creates fear and we forget to live life fully.

Kick back and get silly this week, whilst you still can.

Life is too short…

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Andrew’s Blog: You Will Neglect Your Family

You are going to neglect your family if you want to be rich.

If you want financial wealth, status and to grow an empire – it’s likely you’re not going to be around for your loved ones.

It will take commitment. Yes, you’ll have a nicer car than your neighbour, a bigger house than your friends and luxurious business trips to brag about.

But who will look after you when you need it? It won’t be the car, the house or the business trip. It will be your family and friends.

I have made decisions that have put too much significance on status and belongings and missed precious moments.

I’ve learnt that being rich has a very different meaning.

What does being rich mean to you?

Andrew’s Blog: Speak Your Truth

Telling the truth isn’t easy. There may be consequences.

The fear of the consequences causes us to say yes to things, which we later reflect on and wish we had said no.

But when we are in the moment we aim to please. Being a people pleaser isn’t always credible.

Maybe you don’t want to challenge a good team member in case they leave your team or tell your client you don’t have the capacity to work on the project.

Living a balanced life requires speaking your truth and that can be painful in the short term.

The more you push back and speak your truth, the easier it becomes and you will enjoy more freedom.

Don’t be a ‘yesman’ people pleaser and then complain that a balanced life isn’t possible.

 

Andrew’s Blog: Boundaries

Busy executives with high expectations assume others think the same way as them.

They will text you early in the morning and late at night expecting an immediate response. They will walk over to you and ask you questions when you’re working on something, and expect you to drop what you are doing without hesitation.

They have an agenda and they don’t care about yours.

For the most part, they are just impatient – and whatever they need can usually wait 24 hours.

So whose responsibility is it to set the boundaries?

Yours. It requires the bravery to push back.

Otherwise, you will continue to live your life on someone else’s terms.

Be brave.

Andrew’s Blog: Take Time to Daydream

People who jump from one thing to the next are less trustworthy. We don’t see them as reliable.

We admire those who take the time to contemplate, strategise and make astute decisions.

Yet, ironically, we think we need to be seen as active and working at a pace and think later. We don’t feel like we get the same admiration when it is our turn to be idle or daydream.

Learn from those you admire and enjoy mindful space. Be respectful of yourself as you are of others who do this.

Book time in today for a little daydreaming without guilt – you’ll probably get more done.

Instead of moving for the sake of it, just so you feel like you are doing something of value or playing your part.

Andrew’s Blog: Watch Out for the Ripples

Many leaders in organisations are completely unaware of the impact of their decision making.

Their decisions are often guided by personal agendas, shareholder interests and profit.

There is little awareness of how it affects people on the front line who are responsible for executing the plan.

Before you rush into making a decision, consider the ethical implications of your choices, regardless of the size of your business.

How do your decisions affect your team, your clients and your family?

Play the long game – the rewards are much greater.

What decisions will you make this week – and what ripples will you create?

Andrew’s Blog: No Room to Slip Up

You know the feeling on a Friday afternoon when you look at the following week’s calendar and you think:

“I just need to get to next Friday”

And you haven’t even started the weekend yet?

Busy leaders are so overcommitted that it will throw the whole week off if something else lands on their to-do list.

The more there is to do, the less there is that gets done.

Avoid this stress and overwhelm by creating large gaps for unscheduled time.

You may think this is a luxury – but it works and it will help you clear your head.

You will have less dread about the following week and you are likely to get more done when less is scheduled.

Give it go…

Andrew’s Blog: Control Without Being Controlling

The desire to control others is a form of psychological violence.

I see this trait in leaders who feel overwhelmed and overextend themselves, they are driven by the fear of losing what they love, their partners, money or their status.

The need for control is not coming from an evil place – but it does need attention.

Otherwise, the need for control will always end in loss of control in the end.

How do you stay in control without controlling others?

Andrew’s Blog: Don’t Take it Out on Them

For the most part, you don’t know you are doing it. There is something at an unconscious level that is niggling at you, but you’re are not 100% sure where it came from or when it started.

But it put you in a bad mood.

Maybe it was some bad feedback from a client, a team member not following through or you hadn’t eaten well that day.

We have to learn to manage our thoughts and feelings so we don’t take it out on our families and loved ones. It’s not fair on them.

Consider mindfulness. Meditating in the morning helps to develop the brain’s ability to transition away from negative thoughts.

How do you transition from a work mindset to a home mindset?

 

Andrew’s Blog: Doing the Work is Scary

Our children imitate our behaviours, good and bad. It’s not what we tell them, but what we show them.

They see how we cope with pressure and how we confront our feelings.

If our fathers avoided showing emotion or became angry easily, it’s likely we do the same.

We have to break the negative patterns for our children. And for our teams as leaders.

Be mindful that it is not only your words that your people hear but also how you say them – or when you slam the door or spend too much time on your phone.

‘Doing the work’ means breaking the negative pattern.

Doing the work is scary, but incredibly rewarding on the other side.

Or we will end up spending a lifetime trapped in a negative cycle.

Agree?