Our children imitate our behaviours, good and bad. It’s not what we tell them, but what we show them.

They see how we cope with pressure and how we confront our feelings.

If our fathers avoided showing emotion or became angry easily, it’s likely we do the same.

We have to break the negative patterns for our children. And for our teams as leaders.

Be mindful that it is not only your words that your people hear but also how you say them – or when you slam the door or spend too much time on your phone.

‘Doing the work’ means breaking the negative pattern.

Doing the work is scary, but incredibly rewarding on the other side.

Or we will end up spending a lifetime trapped in a negative cycle.