There are no winners after an aggressive confrontation.

Even the person who believes they won dies a little inside.

When I had absolute clarity about what needed to be done, and someone didn’t agree, I would be triggered into combat.

But it was completely draining and left me feeling exhausted.

I learnt that there was a better way to engage and inspire action in others, by taking time to truly understand where my perceived opponent was coming from – I shifted my personal agenda to a collaborative agenda.

Let’s focus on being calmer and open-minded in our interactions both at work and in our personal lives.

Otherwise, we are left fighting fire with fire and left feeling burned out, or worse we drive others to burnout.