Andrew’s Blog: Life in the Fast Lane

I have some very wealthy clients.

If I tried to keep up with their level of spending, I would go bankrupt tomorrow.

In my twenties I aspired to have all the materialistic things, I imagined having a big house, with classic cars and a yacht in San Tropez.

Whilst my clients would never force their wealth on me, I still find myself fighting the urge not to force their wealth on me.

It is very easy to get caught up in the desire for wanting more – but in many cases, my clients would give it all up for a more simple life.

I am happier when I keep my life simple with three simple ingredients:

  • Water
  • Healthy food
  • A good nights sleep

Then my business, body, relationships and mindset thrive.

Or we can make our lives complex and stressful by stretching our capacity too far. Is it worth it?

Let me know how you keep your life simple.

 

 

Andrew’s Blog: Is It Worth It?

I have some very wealthy clients.

If I tried to keep up with their level of spending, I would go bankrupt tomorrow.

In my twenties I aspired to have all the materialistic things, I imagined having a big house, with classic cars and a yacht in San Tropez.

Whilst my clients would never force their wealth on me, I still find myself fighting the urge not to force their wealth on me.

It is very easy to get caught up in the desire for wanting more – but in many cases, my clients would give it all up for a more simple life.

I am happier when I keep my life simple with three simple ingredients:

  • Water
  • Healthy food
  • A good nights sleep

Then my business, body, relationships and mindset thrive.

Or we can make our lives complex and stressful by stretching our capacity too far. Is it worth it?

Share your tips in the comments on how you keep your life simple.

Andrew’s Blog: Listen More Than You Talk

The most interesting people I know listen more than they talk.

But many business leaders aren’t humble enough to give others the stage, they believe that what they have to say is incredibly fascinating to everybody.

Most of us are poor listeners.

Try listening more than you talk. Practice the art of ‘Ask, Don’t Tell’.

By listening more as a leader you’ll become more interesting to others.

Or you will continue to steal the oxygen from the room and prevent your team from truly thriving.

Agree?

 

 

Andrew’s Blog: Ready for a Street Fight

I was ready for a street fight for all the wrong reasons.

There are real enemies, and there are ones we create in our minds. When we see everyone as a potential threat, we are poised to fight, grind our teeth, fists are clenched, and have zero patience.

In this state, we are less intelligent, make poor decisions, and our minds are clouded. Furthermore, it is not good for our physical and mental health.

It’s not that we want to be violent, but something is happening at an unconscious level that feels threatening.

Take time to investigate the threat. Is it real or imagined? Meditate on it.

In The 4 Keys Mastermind members are ready for a street fight. It’s a metaphor for being present and always ready – but not in a threat state, a ‘challenge state.’

There is a difference.

 

Andrew’s Blog: Time Equals Money

I flipped out when my wife suggested we needed a holiday.

I said “How can you think we need a holiday after the year we’ve had, look at what is going on in the world” my rant continued “Are you deluded??”

It’s fair to say my wife was upset at my emotional reaction and after reflecting on how I responded, I thought, “blimey we need a holiday”.

But could we afford the time away? What about our clients and new business development?

‘Be productive’ is the mantra for busy executives. It probably has something to do with the industrial revolution.

There was a time when I would feel guilty if I wasn’t being productive. Procrastination was a swear word.

I have returned from a two-week vacation with my family – I wasn’t productive at work, but I was more present than ever in my relationships, and I still allowed my mind to drift and get creative about work.

Time spent on nurturing relationships and being mindful generates the biggest ROI on our time.

What personal and business relationships do you need to nurture this week, or is it time to take a vacation and allow your mind to wander?

P.s It was my first alcohol-free vacation in 30 years – and more fun. Looking to take a break from alcohol? Message me for tips.

Andrew’s Blog: Start Listening

The majority of our compulsive behaviours are unconscious. But the people who love us don’t see that.

They try to match our activity at first, then they abandon that strategy and slow their pace in the hope we will match them.

That’s when the problems and the conversations start, but we don’t hear them, we are not present because we are oblivious to it all.

We have become so focused on the business goal that life outside the office has become irrelevant.

Take a step back to listen and recognise that these people in your life want the best for you and be more present.

It will pay greater dividends in the long run.

Andrew’s Blog: Kick Back and Get Silly

Since the age of seven, my nickname has been Smiley.

The nickname was due to my happy disposition, however, as I grew up through my 20s and 30s the name started to become ironic.

Life got serious with parenting, tasks and business objectives. Having too much fun may have appeared suspect or carried some level of guilt.

It gets harder to make others happy or feel like we deserve to be happy when work, clients and bills come first.

The pressure creates fear and we forget to live life fully.

Kick back and get silly this week, whilst you still can.

Life is too short…

P.s. Have you signed up for The 4Keys Workshop? It’s FREE

Andrew’s Blog: You Will Neglect Your Family

You are going to neglect your family if you want to be rich.

If you want financial wealth, status and to grow an empire – it’s likely you’re not going to be around for your loved ones.

It will take commitment. Yes, you’ll have a nicer car than your neighbour, a bigger house than your friends and luxurious business trips to brag about.

But who will look after you when you need it? It won’t be the car, the house or the business trip. It will be your family and friends.

I have made decisions that have put too much significance on status and belongings and missed precious moments.

I’ve learnt that being rich has a very different meaning.

What does being rich mean to you?

Andrew’s Blog: Speak Your Truth

Telling the truth isn’t easy. There may be consequences.

The fear of the consequences causes us to say yes to things, which we later reflect on and wish we had said no.

But when we are in the moment we aim to please. Being a people pleaser isn’t always credible.

Maybe you don’t want to challenge a good team member in case they leave your team or tell your client you don’t have the capacity to work on the project.

Living a balanced life requires speaking your truth and that can be painful in the short term.

The more you push back and speak your truth, the easier it becomes and you will enjoy more freedom.

Don’t be a ‘yesman’ people pleaser and then complain that a balanced life isn’t possible.

 

Andrew’s Blog: Boundaries

Busy executives with high expectations assume others think the same way as them.

They will text you early in the morning and late at night expecting an immediate response. They will walk over to you and ask you questions when you’re working on something, and expect you to drop what you are doing without hesitation.

They have an agenda and they don’t care about yours.

For the most part, they are just impatient – and whatever they need can usually wait 24 hours.

So whose responsibility is it to set the boundaries?

Yours. It requires the bravery to push back.

Otherwise, you will continue to live your life on someone else’s terms.

Be brave.