Andrew’s Blog: Know Your Limitations

As busy executives, we aren’t alway honest with ourselves. We want to be great at everything. We have our hands in all the pies. We have all the answers to the problems.

We may lack the inner patience to  to be honest about what we  can and can’t do.

Be mindful of your limitations and be honest with yourself that you don’t know everything and you never will. It takes another level of confidence to say:

“I don’t know how how to do this”

Decide what you can be involved in and what you need to let go of.

Learning to let go of taking responsibility to know everything, is empowering and frees the mind to focus on your strengths.

Trying to be seen as wise at everything will make you look less wise at most things.

Andrew’s Blog: Keep it Simple

I think most busy executives are greedy – after all it is one of the seven sins and marketing companies know this – they sell to our weaknesses.

Our appetites are big and we not only fill our plates but also our diaries.

It becomes overwhelming mixing all the things we would love to have in our lives – business tasks, exercise, family time – reading, meditation, ski trips with the boys, Sunday morning bike rides – we want it all – we believe we need it all – but at what consequence?

Take something off your to do list or maybe 10. Find something today that you have already started and get it finished – simplify your life – make it stream lined. If you were a brain surgeon with 10 patients or 2 per day how you perform differently?

Seeing something through with quality is one of the most rewarding and fulfilling things we can do – especially when we have the headspace to do it properly.

Otherwise we dilute ourselves and we are never fully present with those who truly matter.

 

Andrew’s Blog: Transformation vs. Change

Body Transformations Don’t Work

The word Transformation is inappropriate.

Most people do not maintain the same body composition after they achieve their goal, therefore it is not ‘transformation’

Transformation is permanent – (a butterfly will never be a caterpillar again)

Transformation is an inside job 🧠

It requires looking deep into your own psychology and making lasting change.

Whereas specific change is a process…it tackles a specific problem.

Such as your leadership, health or relationship for example.

Transformation is different. It is a life changing event. It ignores external factors and practical tools.

It is a journey on the inside.

Are looking for Transformation or to change a specific problem?

Andrew’s Blog: Create Your Own Lockdown Rules

The rules set out by the UK government are non-negotiable.

It’s important for your business, physical/mental health and your relationships that you set non-negotiable rules for yourself so you can navigate the next 3 months in the best possible way.

You can watch my video HERE

I discus the following:

Business

– Have a process

– Remote leadership tips

Body

– Movement/strength training

– Fuel your body in the right way

Relationships

– Don’t be a victim – It’s not about you

– Talk about how you actually feel (speak to a mentor)

Mindset – Meditation – Self-love

Let me know what you think

Andrew’s Blog: Start now

We have been taught that we must always be moving forward, be seen being busy and hectic. It is evidence of hard work, but for the most part we are doing too much and achieving less.

It’s often driven by a need to survive.

In 2021, let’s focus on what’s important and stop worrying about what we are seen to produce.

Then we can tap into something deep inside of us that is real and honest.

This is the way to find find peace and clarity, and as a result we get more done.

Or as Einstein said – The tragedy of life is what dies inside a man while he still lives.

Make 2021 count – start now.

Andrew’s Blog: Let go

It’s not natural for busy executives in todays world to let go of our stuff, particularly with all the chaos going on the world.

We often focus so hard on maintaining old patterns, that have served us in the past, but we frustratingly hold onto these patterns, behaviours, habits that served us in our 20’s

It’s like playing style of football that won the championships in 1980 and believing tactics will win in 2020.

Why do we cling on so tightly to the business tasks as if it is the true measure of life’s success – we become so focused on seeing the task through without truly understanding what the result is going to be.

I don’t mean just in our businesses, but in our health, our relationships and mindset?

So today, let’s keep our goals in perspective. Let’s focus on what makes us truly happy and healthy, not just what keeps us busy.

I am confident that we let go of our frustrations at work and focus on body, relationships and mindset, and trust that business will take care of itself, we will thank ourselves in years to come

Or we will pay the price

The choice is ours

What’s the biggest thing you have had to let go of?

Andrew’s Blog: Measured vs Spontaneous

Our overwhelming desire to measure things could be getting in our way. Especially if we are measuring the wrong things or feel paralysed by the data.

I don’t know if it’s in our genetic coding or if it’s a learnt behaviour to want to measure everything we do?

Whether you’re analytical or more big picture type of guy I expect you like to measure data

But does it help improve performance?

It is easy to get lost in the numbers, it brings a level of certainty and clarity, but does it bring action?

I always admired men who were well measured and in control. I often based my leadership style on these types of traits.

But behind the control was a lack of spontaneity, intuition and real honest emotion.

It was like I couldn’t access them and I then realised people couldn’t access me – and it was effecting my professional and personal relationships.

When I learnt let go of measuring and staying in control of my emotions, I felt free and as result my leadership, relationships AND mental health improved

When we focus on things that lead to real action we create our own luck.

Instead of hesitating and procrastinating, which will only lead to a feeling of overwhelm.

Andrew’s Blog: Lying about being busy

You don’t have time for a crisis because you are creating your own

Someone asked me yesterday what is the best tool for managing time – I said a watch?

Which sounded facetious – but I was being genuine 

Of course there are plenty of tools and techniques for managing our time.

But ultimately it comes down to the choices we make.

There was a time when I looked at my diary for the following week with a sigh with relief.

Because it looked relatively clear.

But come Sunday night it was maxed out, which also brought some relief because it meant I was busy –  I must be doing something right. Right?

But it didn’t allow me to deal with a crisis, which was a crisis in itself.

There was always something to deal with that I didn’t see coming.

Furthermore I’d maxed my diary with meaningless meetings and conversations that weren’t aligned to my vision – or maybe my vision and objectives weren’t clear or big enough to guide me?

Over the years I have learnt to be disciplined and block out my diary – I have learnt to diarise other priorities that focus on my physical and mental wellbeing.

And I don’t feel guilty for replacing work for these types of things even though the entrepreneur is supposed be 110% all the time.

Today let’s listen to what our physical and mental health is calling out for and find a rhythm around them.

When we go all in on our health, relationships and mindset the rewards are much greater.

Rather than being a slave to the work and the diary and thus feeling mentally drained from our own crisis.

Andrew’s Blog: Busy is a trick

It looks like work so it must be work, domination, speeding around, putting out fires, being a hero. Thats what busy executives do right?

I grew up believing work is noisy, fast, hectic, it is physically and emotionally demanding,

For the most part I was running unconsciously. And if I was wasn’t working frantically I couldn’t call it work

Overtime I have learnt  to still my mind from all the chaos, to be quiet and listen, to stop, I have found an inner harmony, that drowns out the noise of the inner voice.

By doing this we learn to hear a lot more, like what our clients are truly thinking and feeling, our loved ones, and sounds that would often be missed on a daily basis.

For more advice on career performance, you can find The 4 Keys on Amazon.

Andrew Sillitoe is a business psychologist, author, and speaker. His innovative approach to leadership and work-life balance has earned him invitations to work with a range of global companies, including Pfizer, Nationwide, Virgin, and the BBC. Today Andrew runs the UK’s number-one training company for entrepreneurs and business owners who want to succeed in business, health, relationships, and mindset.

The 4 Keys on Amazon

Andrew’s Blog: Going Crazy

The fear or the fear of going crazy, is that is not limited to specific peer  group, it is world wide and one of the biggest problems and frightening things any business owner has to deal with.

I think so many people like me are are exhausted from working so hard on the business, and the velocity of information that is absorbed and how it causes us to  neglect other areas of our lives.

It seems impossible to switch off, even the energy to switch off feels exhausting.

But I know I am not alone, I have built a strong tribe – whilst I have learned to quiet my mind the voice is always there.

But I will take time to consider the other business owners and leaders who are also dealing with their inner voice.

Find your tribe that lifts you up. Inspires you and makes you stronger, this is the key to sanity and managing your fear.

Surround yourself with toxic unhealthy people and life will pass you by.

For more advice on career performance, you can find The 4 Keys on Amazon.

Andrew Sillitoe is a business psychologist, author, and speaker. His innovative approach to leadership and work-life balance has earned him invitations to work with a range of global companies, including Pfizer, Nationwide, Virgin, and the BBC. Today Andrew runs the UK’s number-one training company for entrepreneurs and business owners who want to succeed in business, health, relationships, and mindset.

The 4 Keys on Amazon